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I swore up and down that I would never get get married, never have kids and tour the world playing in a rock band.
At 35 I have yet to tour the world in a rock band, am married, and have 3 kids.
Funny how meeting the right person will do that to you.
"tonas" wrote:Um…. is that a bad thing?Of course not! I just know a lot of people who have fallen prey to divorce so seeing someone who’s still married is a rarity. So much so that I’m actually thinking about starting a tour group that offers people a chance to see the rare and elusive married couple in their natural habitat.
My parents divorced when I was in 11th grade seemingly out of the blue. I didn’t see it coming at all until they sat my sister and I on the couch and told us they were divorcing. It devastated me. Those were really hard times for me and am sure that it had a lot to do with my not ever wanting to get married, or have children, or love for that matter. I figured it was all bullshit.
Had I chosen to live that way I would have made a big mistake.
I am glad I found the woman I married. I fully believe she has made me a better man. True love should raise you up and make you better, not bring you down. Which is why I believe that when you find true love that its worth fighting for. I know at times it can be hard, but that doesn’t mean you should give up when you hit a rough patch. I am a lucky man to have found it.
OH Erin, marriage happens when two people fall in love…it happens….also…..I was 29…..and really wanting to do the family thing. I have been in my realationship for almost 20 years…..there are good days and bad…like everything else. That being said I think there is something to be said for staying together "for the sake of the children" Something has been in the air lately (Saturn opposite Uranus) and many relationships have been feeling the need to work on problems or restructure. I was with 5 Mothers on Thursday and everyone of them was talking about how difficult their marriges are at the moment. One of my friends actually said "I hate him right now" YIKES. If I were to split with my husband it would be a finacial disaster for both of us…and it would have a tremendous emotional impact on the kids. My husband and I are so perfectly matched astrologically, we never fight or argue in front of the kids, well maybe we have, like three times ,raised our voices at each other…but in almost 19 years thats not too bad. The real reason we don’t fuss and fight very much is probably because of me….my husband is double Leo with moon in Sagittarius…I don’t want to fight with fire, there is no winning in that situation for me. I was raised in the deep South where I was taught women let men be "the boss of the apple sauce"….and we try not to meddle in their business dealings, we offer advice but we don’t push or force our ideas. We keep them fed and keep their house clean. We talk sweetly to them, tell them how proud we are of them, we make love to them when they need it because we understand that sex is one of the most effective methods for draining the toxic buildup of stress inside their bodies…We keep the children well manured and make sure they are doing well in school and if all that is done with grace and gratitude….the men in turn are patrons for us. Financing our greatest and most worthy creative endeavor…our homes and our children. I know it’s sort of old school but it works for me. My Mother in Law gave me great advice, she said "women are intelligent and intuitive and you must learn the art of allowing your husband to be in control, like the captain of a ship, but you understand that you are his first mate and he is relying heavily (is dependent) on your advice,wisdom and love."
"Annastefka" wrote:…We keep the children well manured
If this is a part of marriage definitely count me out. The whole reason I brought the marriage and divorce stuff up is because I have always felt the break-up of Dinosaur Jr was one big ol divorce. The reason for coming back together had to be a financial one…period.
A good move I think but it does make me feel a little sad to hear J speak in interviews of still "not being friends" The relationship between J and Lou would always have it stressers because it is a combo of fire and water which, I know I’ve talked about it before, is a tricky one. Lou’s wife is a Leo so Lou’s marriage is a combo of fire and water a situation I imagine he has learned to navigate well. Our karma is often worked out through difficult relationships (squares and opposites in astrology) So J and Lou could be helping each other!Cancer men (like Lou) make excellent Fathers, they tend to be very involved types of Dad’s who enjoy spending time with their little ones…teaching and showing them all about life. Cancer men are the ones that us Moms find in the car pool picking up the kids, they are the guys at ballet school waiting for a lesson to be over, they are the Dad’s that come to the classroom Halloween party bringing the best homemade chocolate cupcakes with spider webs on top. Sagittarius men on the other hand can often be too busy to play with the kids, when focused on their life’s work they can become unavailable and distant and when it comes to being tied down to the routines and schedules that children demand…they can become restless. So I think it’s great that J is spending some time with Lou while they are both sort of new parents.
Sagittarius men (like J) do not get overly emotional about anything (Cancer men tend to live in an overly emotional state) never getting "hung up" over some ones words. Several years ago, I was involved in a court/money battle with my husbands ex-wife who is a Sagittarius. I was really upset and as we all walked out of the courtroom one morning….I told her "you are the biggest ****** piece of ****and a dumb *****, get a job and stop living off of us" something to that affect, and as we got into our car the phone rang and it was her…I told my husband "oh, she is about to bitch me back out" and he said "No, she is probably wanting to have breakfast with us or something" I answered and she said "I’m hungry and y’all probably know the best places to eat …I want to have a good meal with you…I’m paying." I remember at that point, right then and there, having this total eureka moment in the understanding of Sagittarius energy…I thought ,either she wasn’t listening to me or she just doesn’t care. I’ve been told by the spouses of Sagittarians that it is a little of both. How cool is that though, I was very uncool and frankly embarrassed by the things I said, she was totally forgiving and I think, had an understanding that my "feelings" about the situation were my own problem and not hers. Sagittarians are adventurous never afraid to try something new and never afraid to speak what is own their minds (Cancers are known for holding words in for the sake of not wanting to deal with what would come up next) so I think that those guys could be great for each other…because if you are going to get remarried then it is important to get along and be friends unless of course, your motive for marriage is financial but where is the beauty and happiness in that? Everyone should strive for a beautiful and happy life…
Oh Girl, Capricorn Mama’s are all about writing the "Thank You" cards and saying "please" and "Thank You"..you just wait!!!!!"Annastefka" wrote:Oh Girl, Capricorn Mama’s are all about writing the "Thank You" cards and saying "please" and "Thank You"..you just wait!!!!!
Ohhhhhh. Now I completely understand what you were trying to say.You wrote "manured" when you meant to write "mannered"! I was thinking to myself "Manure the kids? ? I heard parenting could be a messy job but this is ridiculous!"
OH, that’s funny, I should go and change it but for right now I’ll let it stand…..lets just say "on their best behavior"
During the time I was typing that my littlest one wanted to go take a shower and he wanted me to stay in the bathroom with him….I told him I was in the middle of typing something and that he needed to wait a few minutes…he didn’t want to wait so he headed off to the shower…he told me "Mama ,if you hear me scream "Monsters are here" then you come really fast OKAY…please.
I promised I would.I always tell him "there are no monsters but if there was such a thing as a monster and you have a dog, monsters couldn’t get into your house, it would cause the dogs to go crazy."
Dogs don’t like monsters.
"Annastefka" wrote:…he told me "Mama ,if you hear me scream "Monsters are here" then you come really fast OKAY…please.That was the single most sweetest thing I have ever heard. Tell your son to stop stealing my heart by being so gosh darn cute. Yes. Because without it I’m weak from poor circulation and this bicycle pump just isn’t doing the trick.
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