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"Robert " wrote:from what you’ve been telling I’m guessing tongue in cheek isn’t the only way you want people to take it.
No but that’s always a good start.
"Tom " wrote:I think my wife would gladly send me off to get action elsewhere too.some days I wish I could buy my husband a mistress, so Tom you are probably right.
He’s buggin’ me now to come to bed with him……..it’s going down to 25 degrees this evening so I’m going to take him up on it. Leo’s are very, very, warm. yum.
"Robert " wrote:from what you’ve been telling I’m guessing tongue in cheek isn’t the only way you want people to take it.Hardy har har.
Annastefka,
You love Dinosaur jr, and actually consider your husbands wants. He’s a very lucky man.
Tonas,
I thought the tonue in cheek/swinger bit crossed the lines of good taste. Just joking. How are the shoes? Are they comfy?
"Tom " wrote:Annastefka,
and actually consider your husbands wants. He’s a very lucky man.Uh,oh, he just read this and almost burst his appendix from laughing (or crying, it was hard to tell)
He says "yeah, brother in my dreams, in my dreams"The problem is these days I feel, he wants someone to make love at a moments notice (it takes no getting him in the mood right, he lives in the mood) take care of the cleaning, children and make enough money to pay most of the bills. I really could use a newer car so he says "buy yourself a car"
What ever happened to men taking care of women………..I want him to buy me a car!!!!I usually do consider his wants before mine but………………
we just had a car argument, he said "you want a car…..go……bank…….loan……..dealership, I can’t afford another car payment (because he has a new 2006 truck) and we have the cheapest car insurance around because of your driving record……..go buy a new car and you pay for the insurance too!!
I mean what ever happened to the old fashioned sorts of male and female relationships? He has been a great sperm doner but I say "what now, what?" He just brings a lot of extra dirty laundry to my house is how I feel about him this morning……..I’ve got to run out the door………..he’ll call me around lunch time and we will be best friends again by this evening………..this is an old story, like in so many relationships, that keeps playing itself out again over and over in different forms…….but I love him most high.
"Tom " wrote:Tonas,I thought the tonue in cheek/swinger bit crossed the lines of good taste. Just joking. How are the shoes? Are they comfy?
You know Tom I actually wore them around the house last night and they are pretty comfy. My kids swear they’ll never let me wear them out in public, but we’ll see. I’m still kind of hung up on the Dinosaur jr not being in the right font, and not having the same insoles as the "real" ones but I guess they’re ok.
i think the shoes are pretty neat…but they would just gigantic on me.
i wonder what the smallest size would be…a 6 mens i reckon?"mel21 " wrote:i think the shoes are pretty neat…but they would just gigantic on me.
i wonder what the smallest size would be…a 6 mens i reckon?The smallest size is a men’s 8. I wondered that too. I could wear a men’s 6.
Annastefka ,
Marraige can be tough. I know my wife loves me tons, but it seems like she doesnt like me at all if that makes any sense!
I think people have a tendency to take each other for granted.
As far as a lack of nice guys, I think the women have done a great job screwing that up! It sucks being a nice guy, only to see the women fall for the bad boys, then have their hearts broken, only to come running to the nice guy!
"Tom " wrote:Annastefka ,Marraige can be tough. I know my wife loves me tons, but it seems like she doesnt like me at all if that makes any sense!
Oh, I had just read in another thread that you have 2 children, a newborn and a 3 year old. We call this being in the trenches. The demands of this age are so intense that Mothers,especially, are completely worn out by the end of the day.
Fathers needs have to be put on the back burner when you have a newborn and a toddler in the house. Psychologically woman are so into protecting the brood at this point that many sorts of demands for attention or wants from our adult male partners seem absurd. It was at this point I just wanted my husband to go out and make money and send it to us……….I had no emotional room for another persons needs…….but…….the truth is like all journeys in life, we got through it, and I hope you will too. Our oldest children are grown up enough to be fairly independent, they wake themselves up for school (although I am up before they are) they shower and can do some light cooking for themselves, I have become just an overseer………………now, I do have a two year old, but as in big families from the beginning of time, my older children are helping to raise him and without resentment or frustration but because they love him…he is their baby also. They (especially the girls) bath him for me, change him, read to him, baby sit him so I can go out with Dad……….so my load is lighter and I can now direct some of that focus and love back to their Dad.Marriage counseling helped us (although the counselor was a friend of my husbands and I felt she leaned a bit in his favor sometimes) and just to get through life I feel everyone has to find a way to be spiritual, you have to learn to focus on your spiritual self. I don’t see how any marriage can last with out some mutual involvement in spirituality (spirituality is one of those generic sounding words but I think you know what I mean) So many times in a marriage we want to point to the other person and say "it’s your fault I’m not happy, or point and say "you are the problem in my life" a spiritual person knows that we can’t depend on another person to make our lives complete, we can’t expect another person to make our lives happy……….it’s impossible and I think that’s what has made our marriage so strong.
long-winded as usual but I have been there before as far as loving but not liking my husband………but we stuck it out and got through it because we loved, love being the key word, each other.
Nice to see other freaksceners are parents. I have 3 of my own, my son is 11 my middle daughter is 7 and we just had a girl last year. She’ll be 1 on Valentines day. It is definately challenging at times, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Annastefka,
Thanks for the advice. I know I’m lucky. I love our kids more then anything in the world, but they are a lot of work. Our relationship is kind of funny. We both work (teachers), but she is the one that goes outside and mows the lawn, while I watch the kids. My neighbors must think I beat her, because she does all the work in the yard, and I sit inside. She likes to be outside working, and I love playing with the kids.
I do know that its me that is always wrong. Even when I’m right, I’m wrong. It’s easier that way. No point in arguing. I learned fairly early in our relationship that I’m the one thats always wrong! My wife is the best though. She encouraged me to fly or drive down to Florida to see the Tampa show. I didnt leave her and the kids with the baby being so young, but the fact that she is so understanding and thoughtful…..I know how lucky I am.
Long winded … you should meet my wife! Dont feel like you talk too much. I appreciate the advice. I think the best thing about Freakscene is how nice everyone is.
Thank you,
TomTonas,
I agree. As tough as marraige and kids can be. I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world. It’s funny. I thought I knew what love was, then I had kids. I’d love to have three kids, just like you. My oldest boy will be 3 at the end of April, and our little one is about a month old. Now if we can just have that little girl!
Take care,
TomBetteDavisLies-I teach 4th grade, so I have taught all subjects. I do switch with two other teachers. They teach social studies and science to my class, and I teach math to theirs. 4th grade is a great age. They are mature enough to blow their own nose, tie their own shows, and understand jokes, but they still love school.
Do you teach at college? What subject do you teach? How long have you been teaching?
Takecare,
TomTom- I teach composition at the Univ. of Memphis. I am a grad student there. It doesn’t pay anything, although it does cover the cost of my school. I literally make enough per month to buy groceries and socks. Insurance is out of the question. It definetly isn’t about the money. (I think any teacher would have to agree!) I am passionate about my work (teaching and research) and I don’t think I could be luckier to do what I do. I’m not sure that I would be good with kids. Although some of my students are non-traditional adult learners, I primarily teach 18-24 year olds who don’t have a lot of life experience. You would think they would be happy to be there, but not everyone loves school. They do know how to tie their shoes at least!
About the occasional grammatical slips, I make them all the time on here! Is anyone keeping tabs??
"BetteDavisLies " wrote:About the occasional grammatical slips, I make them all the time on here! Is anyone keeping tabs??It’s funny because whenever I reply to one of your posts, I check for spelling and gammatical errors in fear that you’ll correct it. It would be aweful to come across as unintelligent.
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