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This is sort of an odd question, I know. Allow me to explain:
Yesterday I did a very silly thing and decided to get in touch with the girl I started seeing the night of the Grandaddy concert, and broke up with at the beginning of the month. I had tried my damndest to be the uber-boyfriend for this girl, and she still broke up with me (nope, haven’t gotten a good song out of it yet).
She started talking about wanting to pay me back all the money I spent on her (a sum in excess of $100). This is pretty damned weird to me. I wanted to spend the money on her (this is not counting food), and stand by that. So, whadda ya’ll think?Hey man, if she wants to give it back, you might as well take it. To hell with her and go buy some cds. Maybe if you had spent the money on yourself in the first place then she wouldn’t have broken up with you–maybe you gave her too much too soon.
True, but at the same point, it A)seems wrong somehow to my semi-oldfashiondness and B) would give her closure. Since she told me how her new (as yet anonymous) boyfriend is a "soulmate" I’m not a big fan of giving her any sort of closure. Especially since apparently she’s been rather huggy towards one of her friends who swore to me he wasn’t a threat.
WAR!!!
fuck her closure! what you gotta think about is what gives you closure. she’s probably not gonna be obsessing over not being able to pay you back anyways, due to the yet anonymous prick, so go for whatever makes you happy.
"Voodoo Girl" wrote:Take the cash Malcom, get some cd’s & move on…get that tshirt back as well
also, if she wants to pay you back(this is the rare concept of getting money without sweating,) who are you to argue? So, hell yeah! get the money and buy something useless, or spend it on a night of booze(the best option.)
yeah Malc, usually it’s the other way around…people are trying to GET their money back. If she wants you to have it, take it. If it’s over it’s over, let it go. Move on and think "Hey, I’m ahead $100"!!!
Ugh… girls. lol.
I have this female friend, who means the world to me, and someday i’ll get around to every single message board and proclaim this very statement. lol…
but anyway, I love her, with all of my heart, and I wanted to buy her a CD for x-mas, and she said no. She said no. I had already bought it, and she said I shouldn’t have, or somthing like that. I forget if I ever actually told her I got it, but I was pissed that she kept saying no…
So yeah, I don’t even know whatever happened to that CD… now I remember, I did tell her I got it for her, and yeah, she told me that I shouldn’t have… so I was going to give it to this guy she was seeing at the time. lol, but that never happened, ’cause I didn’t feel like talking to him, either, at the time.
Quote:fuck her closure! what you gotta think about is what gives you closure.Her being uncomfortable is a big help, actually.
Quote:she’s probably not gonna be obsessing over not being able to pay you back anywaysActually, apparently this is something she does to all ex’s. It clearly bugged her I didn’t want her money.
Quote:I have this female friend, who means the world to me, and someday i’ll get around to every single message board and proclaim this very statement. lol…Good friends are the worst. You know the Descendents song "I’m the One?" That was my High School anthem.
O.K., here is my view on the whole ex thing (not that I have an ex in almost 10 years, so it could be outdated)..
1) All personal things (like clothes left over at the other’s place) should be returned at the conclusion of the relationship.
2) All gifts are NOT to be returned. Relationships are a risk, and the money you spend on him/her is something you have done on your own accord, with no strings attached. Now if she agreed to marry, and took the ring, then SHE broke it off, that may be a different discussion.
However, Malc.. If she is OFFERING to pay you back, what the hell are you waiting for?!?!?!? Damn, $100 worth of used CD’s, or holiday gifts.. That has NEVER happened to me or any of my friends.
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