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I’m sorry, I’m in a rant mood, but I just found out today that a REALLY VERY good friend of mine died……two months ago. I don’t know why no one told me. I saw him like, maybe in June or something….and in July he drown. I have decided that I’m dedicating the next R.J. album to him, as well as writing a Stove song for him. He was a really cool guy. He wanted to learn how to play bass about a year ago so we could start a band. I really should have done that. I never really have time to see my friends anymore, as I’m always working. That’s not an excuse. Work should never have to come between friends or family, Ever. I know it really doesn’t matter to any of you that he is gone, but I really just need to talk about it. I still really don’t want to believe it. If you dont get anything out of this thread, just take a heads up! Take the time away from everything to spend time with loved ones. You never know, you could have 50 more years….or 50 more minutes. For that matter, they could be gone without you even knowing. The worst part is, his family didn’t even have a real picture of him for the newspaper. They had to use his I.D. pic. They apparently were too caught up in the fact that he was a metal head and didn’t go to church like they thought he should and didn’t care about him. The family didn’t stay too long at the burial. From what I hear his own mother left before they put the first bit of dirt on his coffin. A friend of mine had to do that for him. The funeral consisted of people talking bad about his lifestyle in hopes that they could change other people into doing/thinking the way they do. I wasn’t there of course, but a guy told me no one really had anything good to say about him at the funeral or burial. All because the Bible Belt Morons. He was a great person. If nothing else…..(and I’m sorry I keep going) I just want this to be a little memorial for him.Don’t ever take for granted the time you have here. It’s over before you know. Stop doing things you hate doing if you want something else. Make yourself happy first. If you are truly happy, then work on other people. Life isn’t a race, it’s not about who is the best….or any of that shit. It’s about living, and living with other people …….who are different. Learn to accept people for who they are. How many times have you ever had an athiest (not that Josh was athiest) come to your door and try to convert you? Never? I haven’t. Why always try to convince people that your way is better? My way works for me, Josh’s way worked for him. However you want to believe, but I think Josh is chillin’ with some kool people in Heaven now. I’m very sad, but I’m jealous as well. This is a sick and twisted world we are in, and now he has been taken from it…..and doesn’t have to worry about it anymore. He was only 20, he didn’t have time to….do anything. Anyways, just remember this posts message, and that I love you all. I will remember and miss Josh Harmon forever.
-Eric
I have no idea how to reply to your post R/J, but please know that I feel sorry for your loss. Friends shouldn´t die, ever. Never.
yeah bummer man. sorry about your frend…. we all got time on this earth… i work in a haunted house and the ghosts really like to make themselves known. so it lets me know there is at least something after we die… ive been in new orleans since december of last year, and there has been death al over the place. you sort of get used to it after a while…
Sorry for your loss RJ. I know how you feel. Up until last year I hadn’t had to deal with a lot of death. 31 years on this earth and I ‘d only been to maybe 2 funerals and they were people I didn’t know, my parents or something usually dragged me to them. But in the past year I’ve been to 4 funerals and each one of them that person meant something to me. I’ve had to deal with a lot of loss this year, and I know what you mean…… it isn’t about who has what, but about how you lived and who you connected with while you were here. So in a way everyone who passed this last year is still living by what they passed onto us who are still here. Hey man I hope you feel better, if you need anything just know your freakscene brothers and sisters are here for you man.
Sorry for the loss of your friend, always a painful thing. Lost a long time friend of mine couple years back, Johnny Shine. Last time I saw him was at a Supersuckers show. I still look for him & miss him at every single show I go to!
Grief does strange things to people sometimes, shame his family couldn’t get past the anger & fear in time for his funeral. My friends service was quite beautiful, pictures of him up everywhere, all different kinds of people he had hooked up with spoke about their experiences with him & what he meant to them. Makes a huge difference when you can share that loss with people who understand the pain of losing someone special!
Keep your friends memories fresh & positive.
My thoughts are with you
Hi Eric,
I’m so sorry to hear about your friend, and angered to hear that his family could not / would not give him a respectful service. Thank the universe that he has a good, conscionable, loving friend like you to keep his positive memory alive. Also, don’t blame yourself for not being there, or not finding out sooner– it’s not like he was terminally ill and you were choosing your job over him. You’re trying to make a living and you live your life with so much honesty and heart, which has always stood out to me. Things happen the way they’re meant to, and sometimes it’s just out of our hands.
I’m thinking of you too, and sending you my warmest thoughts from California.
Love,
RosaThank you all for the nice words and stories. I just wish that times like these wouldn’t just be forgotten. After a while, you move on and then start taking things for granted again.
Tonight, I went to work and I guess I finally had enough and I walked out during my shift. There was another manager there and the GM was coming in at 10, so…..they were good. I’m just thinking that maybe now I can get in touch with some people, and start looking for a job that will pay better than I got at Wendys. I was there for 2 1/2 years and moved up twice and had three raises and I could start out at McDonalds getting more money. I dont want fast food anymore though. I’m done with food, I want something that will remotely make me happy……that’s what I’m here for right?
R/J
Hi Eric.
Thoughts are with you. Glad you’re out of wendy’s. Let’s change the direction of this thread, and come up with suggestions for a career move for Eric.
I’ll start – how about offering guitar tuition to kids? Not sure how much that goes for in the US, but here people pay £10-£20 per hour. Got to be better than Wendy’s. Print up a few cards, distribute them around schools/bars/shops etc. post them around your neighbourhood.
Good luck.
Great point Javro,
Here in Athens we have a few guitar teachers that everyone wants (best reputation), just this year my daughter asked for guitar lessons, the teacher she wanted charges $30 dollars an hour, I’ve seen the results of this teachers work, very impressive but I had to say "No".Other teachers charge $25 dollars an hour still better than Wendys.
Hey Eric,
I think you’re very brave and even though it may be hard for a while, you are doing the right thing. I think Javro’s idea is terrific.
hey i know a cool job.. get a job at a golf course. i used to work at golf couses when i was younger and that was the chillest job for a pothead.. you have to start at the ass crack of dawn though… but a few doobs later and some mixtapes for the lawnmowewr and it was away .. mowing fairways for 40 hours a week. and all the free golf i wanted… its cool if you like golf and weed and dodging the occasional bad shot..
ha……those are some goog ideas. I have actually thought about doing something like teaching guitar. I have done one bass lesson, it took about an hour and a half and I got $20 for it. It was cool, (yeah…little over 10 bucks an hour,but…) the kid was really happy because he could play like three or four songs at the end of the lesson. Plus he learned all of his basic chords in that time too. He had played the saxaphone before so I think that is why it came easier for him. When a kid like that comes around it’s really exciting for me to teach them because they WANT to learn. Most kids just are there for the parents or they only want to learn how to play songs. I can’t just put a disc in your drive and upload talent into your hardrive…lol..it just doesn’t work like that. Oh well.
On a different note, I met up with a friend that Josh hung out with and we talked about the last time we saw him. He said that the night before he died, they had a big party. He was like, "I had no clue that was going to be the last time I would ever get to see him." Mine was sadder…we saw him at a red light and I looked over and he was really excited and smiling at me and waving. I didn’t know who he was at first, I didn’t really see him that well, it was really dark….Heidi (wife) didnt think she knew him either…..and flipped him off….oops. Then when we both pulled off we realized who it was and felt really bad. Now I feel horrible! I hope he knew that we just didn’t recognize him….I know he knew we liked him though, he left the red light area still smiling though, so I think it was all good.
R/J
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